Let Love Win

Love can become the reason for healing and beyond.

Month of LOVE

Of course as I am writing this blog article, it is the month of LOVE. Everyone knows the month of L.O.V.E. is February!

But my question for you is, “Why does love have to only last the month of February?”

I mean I get it…

February is a great month to express our love to others and those we care about. 

And yet, it seems as if after V-Day, 

It all goes away. And life goes back to normal. Normal can look different for each person. Maybe “normal” is having dirty socks on the floor (my husband) 

Or, Perhaps it is a tiny mess that looks like a mini tornado just hit the living room…. Again. 

(As you read this you might be able to relate to what I just said because you have kids…)

What about when it comes to our healing?

And grief?

How can love enter both of these topics?

Better yet,

How can we let love win?

I mean truly win!

Even when it is hard. Even when our hearts have been shattered and broken…

Even when your boss yells at you for not “going back to normal or keeping up the same pace as before?”

How can we let love win in these scenarios? 

Breaking it Down

Let’s break each of them down…

• When it is hard

Friend, I know that when it feels like everyone is against you and you just want to curl up in a ball and cry, that’s when we need a gentle reminder that we are loved. That people say stupid stuff all the time. But that doesn’t mean I have to let it sink into my spirit and take up camp. 

• When our hearts have been shattered and broken

This is tough, I’m not going to “sugarcoat” it even when it’s February. You have been through an extremely difficult and traumatic experience. Your heart is raw. Broken in fact. How do we let love win when all you feel is heartache? Slowly remind yourself throughout the day of what it is like to love. Think of tangible examples. Real-life experiences are even better.

• Someone in your life doesn’t understand or “get it”

This is hard too. I wish I could tell you that everyone will have compassion, understanding, and even sympathize with you but it has been my experience that this can be quite rare. You are going to find people in your life who simply don’t and won’t “get it.” Loving them anyways is how love wins. 

Receive the Invitation

I want to invite you to let love win. I also want to encourage you to let love become the reason for healing. Bringing love with you as you go on this journey of healing has so many benefits.

Benefits that I can’t even begin to explain as you read this…

Your journey to start letting love back into your life, will look different than mine.

And that’s okay!

It shouldn’t look cookie-cutter. 

Why?

Because, I’m not sure if you noticed but love “looks” and “feels” different to everyone.

What do I mean?

For example, Love looks like roses and teddy bears to some?

While,  love might look like a bubble bath with candles…

Or, My husband loves coffee so when I bring him coffee from his favorite local coffee shop, he feels loved. Our dog feels loved when we rub her belly…

My daughter LOVES to go to the movie theater or go to the gas station and get a treat. 

My son LOVES to take baths and blow raspberries. 

See!

Love can look different for everyone. Same idea when I say that it feels different for each person…

It might feel, warm

Tingly

“Warm fuzzies” 

You get the idea…

“What about years later after this loss?”

“How can you and I continue to let love win?”

Months or Years Go By

As I write this we are approaching the 4 year mark of my sister’s passing. It has been a rough and bumpy road to say the least…

But if I’m honest, everyone’s journey has bumps. Don’t you agree? Everyone experiences the peaks and the valleys of life.

Back to my question from a minute ago, “How can you and I continue to let love win months or even years later?”

Not to sound too simplistic, but for me, I had to make a choice to let love win on a daily basis.

This for me, and maybe you’ll find this to be true also that when I’m in a valley of darkness 

Or,

Having a rough day when my heart aches because she( my sister) or anyone in my life, is gone.

It is love that helps pull me out and lifts me back up again.

As I tell myself, “Crystal, keep standing.”

And I invite you to do the same…

Keep Standing!

And 

LET LOVE WIN!

Love Notes:

• I had to make a choice to let love win on a daily basis.
• I’m not sure if you noticed but love “looks” and “feels” different to everyone.
• Love looks like roses and teddy bears to some?
• While, love might look like a bubble bath with candles…
• Or,My husband loves coffee so when I bring him coffee from his favorite local coffee shop, he feels loved. 
• Our dog feels loved when we rub her belly…
• Love can look different for everyone.
• Everyone’s journey has bumps.
• Everyone experiences the peaks and the valleys of life.
• How can you and I continue to let love win months or even years later?”
• I had to make a choice to let love win on a daily basis.
• Receive the Invitation. I want to invite you to let love win
• I also want to encourage you to let love become the reason for healing.
• It is love that helps pull me out and lifts me back up again.
• May you continue to love yourself, be gentle, be kind to yourself and most of all, let love win after suicide. 

Love,

Crystal